Of course, at the time of anybody's death there is almost always sadness and grieving. However, when it is a child who passes away, that grief is intensified. Even if the child's passing was anticipated because he or she had a long-term disease, and even if that child had been suffering, that doesn't always make things easier. Questions that are asked are often hard to answer. The main question is often, Why? Even though you might not have the answers to difficult questions, if you have been made the person in charge of planning a child's funeral, from the music to selecting a bronze memorial, here are some ideas for you to consider.
The Funeral Service - Remember that those who are attending the child's funeral are not only coming to honor the family, but they are often coming to the funeral to be comforted themselves. A funeral service can be the beginning of the long process of healing.
- Help those in attendance to feel close to the deceased child by setting up a display that depicted his or her life. For example, if the child loved art, display some of his or her artwork. You can even include his or her favorite movies in the display. If the child loved watching Disney movies, have them on the display table. Another thing to do is to include photographs of the child from the time of her or his birth to the present time. Include pictures with friends and family members, too.
- Think of asking the child's Sunday School teacher or another church leader to form a children's choir. Songs like Jesus Wants Me For A Sunbeam and Jesus Loves The Little Children are perfect for a child's funeral. If you want to select non-religious music, think of songs like Somewhere Over The Rainbow or You Have A Friend In Me.
- The spoken word is obviously very important. Think of providing anecdotes that the speaker can use. Even humorous ones are very appropriate to be shared.
The Memorial Gravestone - Are you also in charge of selecting a gravestone or another monument for the child's resting place?
- One consideration is to order a bronze plaque that has the child's picture on it. Besides the child's name, birthday and death date, consider adding a sentiment like Never Forgotten or Our Little Hero as part of the design of the plaque.
- Another consideration is to select a bench memorial. If it is a small one, it can be used as the headstone. Again, a special sentiment can be added to the bench.
- Perhaps you are considering a memorial to be part of the child's family home garden, a school yard, or another special setting. If so, a bench memorial with a brass plaque would be perfect.
Think of sending a little memorial home with each person who attends the funeral service. A picture bookmark is just one idea that will remind friends and family members of the little boy who passed away too soon. For more information, visit websites like http://www.hartmanmem.com/.